Why is it that when people talk with someone else they discuss events, rather than feelings? “Yesterday this happened, and then we did this, and it was cool, and then we went here, etc, etc.â€Â Are we so secretive as a species that it is a faux pas to mention feelings in conversation with an acquaintance? Why are topics of conversation so bland as to be a laundry list of what they other person has done recently? Or will be doing in the future? Is it because we’re all so focused on ourselves, on our own lives that we each want a chance to talk about us, that it’s an understood that after you’re done talking about you I get a good chance to talk about myself? Why is small talk about insignificant things? Why can we not have deep meaningful discussion in casual conversation?
After all, it is this talk that helps people to grow closer together, to feel more emotionally aligned, it seems like the most evident solution.
This is your call to action…I challenge you to try and share a meaningful moment with someone—force it even—when you realize the conversation has turned into simply useless filler.
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I tell you, you tell me, repeat. … imo it’s an out of date social etiquette/conditioning. I hope in the future all this status-type information will be conveyed via some online means and social etiquette will be to only talk about things of value when face-to-face.
This is all the more reason for people to share their lives on things like facebook/blogs or other social-serving medias. “yeah, it was in my news feed… next topic.”
we you know, perhaps we are just annoyed by this because we’re male.